How to Approach Those Grieving at a Funeral
Knowing what to say and how to say it at a funeral isn’t always obvious for some of us. Think through what the right kind of exchange might sound like.
Handling oneself at a funeral isn’t always the easiest task. Many of us have questions when it comes to how we should proceed. How should we speak to those who were closest to the deceased? What should we do when at the funeral itself? These are good and honest questions, and it may be helpful to think about them in advance. If you or someone you know is looking for funeral homes in or near Morgan County, IN, there are certainly local experts and funeral directors with whom you can speak. In the meantime, it is probably a good idea to think through the funeral, those who will be in attendance, and where you ultimately fit in the grand scheme of things. No one wants to seem out of place or say the wrong thing, not at a time like this.
First, consider how close you were or weren’t to the deceased and their immediate family. If you know them quite well, you may wish to arrive to the funeral early so that you can spend more time speaking with them. Seeing you show up and knowing that you are willing to share your time will mean a lot in and of itself. However simple, these kind of gestures matter. You may also wish to offer your assistance, especially if you are actually willing and able to come through. Even after planning a funeral, some families have a great deal of difficulty resuming their daily routines. Meals can help. Taking care of kids can help. Running an errand or two can help, as well. Remember that offering will in and of itself send an important message. You are there for those who are grieving.
Second, express your condolences seriously and without any unnecessary rambling. The last thing you want to do is compare scars or suggest that you know exactly what they’re going through. Maybe you do. Maybe you don’t. That isn’t what grieving parties need to hear. You can always offer to be an open ear and continue speaking with someone at a later date. You can even encourage them to reach out. If they really want to talk, they will. It is perfectly acceptable to note how much the deceased meant to you and why. A brief anecdote or reference can go a long way toward reminding those who are grieving that their loss isn’t the whole story. A life well-lived likely made a difference to you, and you can always remind those in attendance how much that has meant to you. You don’t have to deliver a eulogy in order to send a very simple and heartfelt message. Just find the right opportunity to offer your support and appreciation to those who need to hear it.
If you are interested in funeral homes in the Morgan County, IN, area, consider reaching out to Carlisle-Branson Funeral Service & Crematory. We have a long history of working with families in need and treating them the right way. We look forward to addressing any questions or concerns you may have. You can visit us at 39 E High St, Mooresville, IN 46158 or place a phone call to (317) 831-2080.
