Rebecca "Becky" Wilhoite
August 4, 1966 ~ December 3, 2020
Rebecca “Becky” Wilhoite, 54, of Camby, passed away December 3, 2020. She was born August 4, 1966, in Indianapolis, Indiana, to the late Alton and Louise (McDaniel) Westerfield. Becky married John Wilhoite, on March 26, 2005.
Becky was a proud military mom for many years. Becky worked for Ciproms for over 16 years in the medical billing department. Growing up she had passion for horses and did competitive barrel racing. Becky enjoyed going to fairs especially the horse competitions and sweet corn. She liked to read, do crosswords, but most of all spending time with her children. She was a band mom, a soccer mom, a swimming mom, a marine mom, and academic booster. Becky will be greatly missed by her loving family and friends.
Survivors include her husband of 15 years, John Wilhoite; children, Andrea Groves, Anthony (Kassie) Groves, Ashton Groves, Trevor Wilhoite, and Emmalee Wilhoite; siblings, Debbie (Duane) Miller, Tammy (Stan) Roberts, and Joe (Liz) Westerfield; and nieces and nephews, Dan (Melanie) Beard, Jennifer Beard, and Justin (Brandi) Lindley.
Friends and family will gather to celebrate Becky’s life on Wednesday, December 9, 2020, 4 p.m. to 8 p.m., at Carlisle – Branson Funeral Service & Crematory. The funeral service will begin at 10 a.m., Thursday, December 10, 2020, at the funeral home. All guests attending visitation and/or services will be required to wear a mask at all times in an effort to promote a safe environment. Everyone is also invited to livestream the service through the Carlisle-Branson website. While flowers are welcome, memorial contributions may be made to the two youngest children’s education: https://www.gofundme.com/f/Wilhoite-Education-and-Activities. Envelopes will be provided at the funeral home, please make the checks out to John Wilhoite or Andrea Groves. Visit www.CarlisleBranson.com to share a favorite memory or to sign the online guest registry.
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I remember Becky as a beautiful little dark haired girl who always had something to say always bubbly and inquiring. It’s sad to think she’s gone so young. My condolences to all her siblings and family.
To the Wilhoite Family, My deepest condolences on the passing of your mother, wife, sister and daughter. I worked with Becky at Ciproms for several years. Becky was thought of as the sweetest person I have met. Becky will truly be missed. Sincerely, Jenny Goodwin
We are all so sorry to hear about Becky. Please know we are thinking of you and feel free to reach out to us for anything. Lots of Love and Aloha.
Each one of us has a memory that makes up the whole picture of Becky’s life. While each memory is unique to each of us, there will be themes that connect us.
Picture the basement of West Newton United Methodist Church in 1971 with tables chairs and about 20 five years olds for 1/2 day kindergarten. This is the setting for when Becky and I first met. We shared going to West Newton for elementary school (not sure if she went to Valley Mills part of the years). In elementary school, we were friends.
In junior high, our paths divided and we met new friends. I knew Becky and saw her in the halls at junior high and high school yet we didn’t share any classes or after school activities.
Fast forward to Aldersgate United Methodist Church on Hanna Avenue in Decatur Township and a preschool class of four and five year olds in 1994 where you see your kindergarten pal and her daughter, Andrea. God had a great plan to get us back together to build our friendship. When Ashleigh, needed a babysitter, Becky was able to step into that role which was a tremendous blessing and weight lifted off my shoulders. She was the “aunt” to my girl. She was so giving, caring, and understanding when I had to work late. Ashleigh was part of the family. I got the priviledge to watch the kids on the weekends and was gifted with that same priviledge.
Ash and Andrea played T-ball at Garfield Park. Becky made sure they were there for practice and games. I can’t recall if she helped coach the team. I came straight from work to watch the girls. She gave me so many gifts by helping with Ashleigh. It was less stressful for me to leave work and go straight to the games. We had shopping trips or lunches/dinners without kids. When Tony was two and jumping off the furniture, I was pretty frantic and she was very laid back.
We co-chaired Children’s Ministry at West Newton United Methodist Church. We planned a week long Vacation Bible School each year for two to three years in the late 90’s. We had some pretty cool VBS experiences. When Dylan was almost three, I was a co-teacher for pre-school. I was in my element because I love working with little kids because you can use your imagination when sharing the message. The story was of Samuel and Eli. Eli was the prophet mentoring Samuel. God spoke to Samuel. Samuel went to Eli to say he heard him calling. Eli said it wasn’t him and sent Samuel to bed. This happened a second and third time. Eli realized on the third time that God was calling and instructed Samuel on how to answer. Imagine my surprise at the perplexed look and question from Becky on “what was I teaching the kids”. Dylan shared the exact story EXCEPT he referenced the green guy (Samuel) and the orange guy (Eli) instead of names. If you remember the Fisher Price people that were wooden, with a round hole in the bottom, plastic hair, and generic face, imagine me telling the story with visuals to show the story in action for the kids including the Fisher Price plastic bed too. We laughed a lot about it.
Life took us in different directions with different responsibilities as our children grew up. In 1997, I moved from Decatur Township to Warren Township. Becky watched Ash a couple of summers and on school breaks. We met at a gymnastics meet to catch-up. We would meet as family at least once a year for dinner to catch up. We had a great time.
In March 2005, my husband Dave and I along with Ash go the priviledge of meeting John to congratulate them on their marriage.
In late Jan or early Feb of 2016, we met Emmalee. She was so pretty. I got to hold and cuddle her. When the military took Becky out of state, we still kept in touch as much as we could. She was trying to keep up with kids and I was in college and trying to keep up with a high schooler.
When she and John returned to Indy, we continued our dinners which was so great. At our 30th class reunion, Dave and I got to spend more time with John and Becky. I helped plan the event so I was so glad they came, supported it, and we could have dinner and catch up.
When Dylan left for the military, we caught again. We met for dinner in 2019 to catch up as it had been a few years because it is tough to find a date that worked. I wondered how Trevor and Emmalee have grown up so fast. It was great to catch up, learn about the activities the kids participated, and that they were going to school in Decatur Township where our journey started.
I am going to miss her and catching up on life. She was caring, giving, creative, funny, and a great friend. She had a great laugh and laughed often.
I know this is pretty lengthy yet I wanted you to get a peek into her life and the beauty she brought to mine. Please forgive me if there are spelling or grammer errors because there is only a small window for entry.
My heart aches for John, Andrea, Tony, Dylan, Emmalee, Trevor, and the rest of the family.
With deepest sympathy,
Ms Becky has been so instrumental in my family’s life. I was searching for the picture of “all these pumpkins “ as my grandchildren kept saying the day Becky hosted Pumpkin carving Day. I remember how cold it was and how she sent out for more pumpkins so that each guest could have one. We decorated cookies and made some fun memories. While viewing this beautiful video, I became so excited when I saw picture of “all those pumpkins “! I wish I only had more time to learn about Becky’s exciting life and to make more memories. She will be greatly missed and always remembered ♥️